There are different ways of how people cope up. There's what they called DABDA as an acronym for how people move on after grieving or after somebody died. For me, it applies with other things as well. It mostly applies whenever a change happens. Familiar with it? Here it goes:
D is for Denial.
Whatever happened haven't sink in yet. You haven't absorb it yet. You're still denying the fact that the change did not occur and you continue to live just like before. For you, "No. It did not happen."
A is for Anger.
It affects you in such a way that you're angry with everything and everyone including God. You blame other people. You blame yourself. You blame God. You're angry. You can't accept it or anything even remotely related. You're not happy. Whatever positive thing they say, you're angry. You're going to listen to them but you will make sure that you don't take it seriously and continue to take it against them.
B is for Bargaining.
Why her? Why him? Why not me? Why not others? Why not other bad people? The peg that you love is, "Lord, why have You forsaken me? Sana ako na lang. O kaya iba na lang."
D is for Depression.
Don't want to eat. Don't want to sleep. Don't want to talk. Don't want to live. Laslas pulso peg!
Lastly, A is for Acceptance.
The final step. You have finally moved on.
Note that this does not happen in chronological order. Although acceptance will always be the 5th step, you can always go back to the 1st one as soon as you observe that you haven't really moved on.
My point, exactly? Don't post / tell other people they are your world if only a few months ago, you were crying over someone cheating on you and as to how much you loved them. Coz if your love is as deep as what you've mentioned and posted before, then definitely, having another boy toy cannot easily replace them.
I know all of us do have different ways of moving on... different timing as well. But please, cut the forever thing and you and me against the world drama. Like what some of my single friends say, "WALANG POREBER!"
But then again.... probably that's how you cope up?
D is for Denial.
Whatever happened haven't sink in yet. You haven't absorb it yet. You're still denying the fact that the change did not occur and you continue to live just like before. For you, "No. It did not happen."
A is for Anger.
It affects you in such a way that you're angry with everything and everyone including God. You blame other people. You blame yourself. You blame God. You're angry. You can't accept it or anything even remotely related. You're not happy. Whatever positive thing they say, you're angry. You're going to listen to them but you will make sure that you don't take it seriously and continue to take it against them.
B is for Bargaining.
Why her? Why him? Why not me? Why not others? Why not other bad people? The peg that you love is, "Lord, why have You forsaken me? Sana ako na lang. O kaya iba na lang."
D is for Depression.
Don't want to eat. Don't want to sleep. Don't want to talk. Don't want to live. Laslas pulso peg!
Lastly, A is for Acceptance.
The final step. You have finally moved on.
Note that this does not happen in chronological order. Although acceptance will always be the 5th step, you can always go back to the 1st one as soon as you observe that you haven't really moved on.
My point, exactly? Don't post / tell other people they are your world if only a few months ago, you were crying over someone cheating on you and as to how much you loved them. Coz if your love is as deep as what you've mentioned and posted before, then definitely, having another boy toy cannot easily replace them.
I know all of us do have different ways of moving on... different timing as well. But please, cut the forever thing and you and me against the world drama. Like what some of my single friends say, "WALANG POREBER!"
But then again.... probably that's how you cope up?
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